Monday, 16 September 2013
7 THINGS TO EXPECT FROM A MAN BEFORE MARRIAGE
Marriage is an institution you shouldn't rush into for admission, a covenant that was meant to last for a lifetime and a commitment of- for better, for worse. It has fulfilled the lives of many and has also ruined that of many. Before saying a yes filled with joy, happiness and celebration to any man offering you an engagement ring or wedding ring, there are several things to look out from this man, otherwise, you may end up with him giving you another marriage ring called suffering.
Things to look out from your man before saying yes are;
GOD FEARING MAN;
Marriage is an institution ordained by God, as a union void of this great ordination is headed for calamity. This is the first and most important thing to ascertain before saying yes to any man, ascertain if he is a God fearing man. Listen, 70% of men I've come across wants a God fearing woman, even when they themselves are wolves amongst sheep. You too should look out for God fearing men.
Never say yes to a man whom you question his submission to the Supreme Being called God. You must learn to place God above the so called love you have for him. It doesn't matter if you are the only one on God's side, what matter is; are you both on God's side? Know that a God fearing man who loves you will always live to love and cherish you, since God the bible say is love.
LOVE CONQUERS ALL;
Although love is not all that matters to say yes to marrying any man, but it is still an important factor and determinant of any union. Love many say conquers all, but never allow your love for any man or his love for you to affect your reasoning. If he proposes to you because of your beauty....run, because that beauty may fade away someday and this may be a sign of lust or infatuation. If it’s because of your natural shape and curves, your wealth or inheritance, run my dear...because I remember my aged grandmother once had all those characteristics, but they are almost all gone and nobody will like to visit her now if she should be a city, or ask her out for a date.
Marry a man that loves you for whom you are rather than what you are or have. Many men wishes to marry professional ladies who are on top of their careers, there's nothing wrong with this, but some will never consider her as a person, run from this kind of men, they are the lazy and weak type.
Marriage is a life time commitment. To fulfill your purpose in life, you must also have a partner that captures your vision and motivates you to fulfill it. Don't just marry him because you love him or because he is rich, ask yourself if he's the type that has great ideas, plans and vision that will form a perfect future for both of you. Loving him alone will not leave a lasting legacy for your unborn children, his money may not also out live him, but it will only take a man with vision and purpose for living to make a generation and future filled with great accomplishment. Look out for a man with vision, a generational thinker, who plans for the future.
YOU DESERVE HIS RESPECT
A man should respect you before he is given the chance to love you, and a man who doesn't respect you doesn’t deserve your friendship, not to talk of being your husband.
A husband opening the car door for his wife is not because she is incapable of doing so, but because he is symbolically placing his masculine strength at her service, as a reminder of their marriage vows. If he doesn't respect and treat you like a woman during courtship, he will not do so after marriage.
But respect isn't one sided, women must also learn to respect the men folks, irrespective of his statue, wealth or personality, as this is a symbol of their masculinity endowed to them by providence, only then will you get the respect you deserve.
IS HE YOUR FRIEND
I tagged one of my articles....MARRY YOUR FRIEND. Sometimes we claim we are in love with someone, but find it difficult to confide in him in matters concerning us or the relationship, so as not to lose him. If you cannot confide on your partner, your relationship is headed for destruction, if it eventually leads to marriage, both of you will live in different world of uncertainty.
DOES HE LISTEN TO YOU?
Research has proven that men are attracted by what they see and women by what they hear. But a husband material though attracted and satisfied by what he sees in his woman must also learn to give a listening ear when she talks. Yes, the female folks are attracted by what they hear, but they are more relaxed with a man who listens while they talk, narrate and gist rather than men who shut them up, giving them little or no time to express their own feelings.
Ladies must learn to look out for men who give them their undivided attention and time, who listens to them and cares about their worries.
One of my friends once said, ‘‘every guy wants to marry a beautiful girl, but not every guy can maintain her beauty''...... Before you say a YES to any man, you must consider if he's financially independent, can he take care of you more than you took care of yourself as a spinster? What is he bringing into the relationship, it mustn't just be love. If he's still living in his family house, run my dear. If he still relies on his family for his daily needs, run.
Don't get it twisted, you may wonder why I placed the issue of finance almost last, its because the bank statement of any man is not his true worth. Don't say yes to a man because he is rich, don't say no because you think he's poor, but look out for men that are financially free and independent, with financial intelligence, hardworking, possesses great ideas for success, excellence and in business and can take care of you and your children if you should marry him, as well as other needs.
Wealth is something that comes to the strong and smartest people, with your ideas synchronized in his; you both can build tremendous wealth together. During courtship, discipline him to save and invest, if he can't, run for your own good, because any man who cannot save and invest, may not build much wealth.
Lastly, never look out for the expectations of others when choosing Mr. Right, but look out for your own expectations. You are the one who's going to wear the shoe, purchase your size and not that of your friends or family members. You may receive their advice, but go for that which is best for you.
Live your life, love you life and heal our world with love....one love from Eze Victor Obinna.